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Without My Sparkle

He said, “ Maybe you should tone it down a little ,” and he really believed he was being kind. He probably even thought he was doing me a favor by offering that little nugget of wisdom. He had no idea what would actually happen if I took his advice. If I toned it down, even a little, the whole world would see the mess underneath. The sparkle is not decoration. It is survival. It is the thing that keeps people from noticing how chaotic it gets inside my head. No one needs front row seats to that. The truth is simple. The louder, brighter, funnier version of me is not fake. It is the version that keeps me moving. It is the version that keeps me from sinking. It is the version that lets me walk through the world without handing everyone a map to the parts of me that are still healing. Because yes, there are dark corners. There are old wounds. There are nights when my brain feels like it is trying to fold in on itself. But that is not the whole story, and it is not the part I owe to anyone...

Burn That Bridge

I realized today that I am very fortunate. My real-life social circle is tight. We have different opinions but we share the same core values and beliefs. And that means I don’t have to endure awkward conversations with bigots, racists, sexists, and homophobes. I just don’t. They aren't allowed into my home or to prattle on at work or show up at family gatherings. Those people are no longer part of my life. But today, I’m thinking about my many Facebook friends that *do* put up with that shit. They hear their family members and close friends say all kinds of horrible things about people that they see as different or somehow inferior. And they try again and again to build bridges only to be shot down as “libtards” or “snowflakes.” I’m sorry you all deal with that. You must have your reasons, but please know that you don’t have to go through life burdened by that crap. You don’t have to be an emotional punching bag for people who lack decency and compassion for other people if those o...